I posted this several years ago on my personal Facebook page. Sometimes it’s good to remind myself.
A long time ago, I decided that I would distance myself from people in my life who made me feel less than the perfectly created human that I am. Living with the constant disapproval, judgment and unkind words was making me miserable. Once I realized that I didn’t need their approval to be happy and enjoy life the way that I am, life became so much more of an enjoyment.
I have endured some harsh words and some pretty unkind judgments from people I would not have expected to act in that way. It doesn’t affect me the way it used to, I simply choose to move them right on out of my life. It does not mean that those words and actions do not hurt me.
I’ve also come to realize that it’s okay to speak up and say that your actions hurt and because I don’t rely on other people’s approval, it does not change my happiness. I have the ability and the strength to say if you can’t love & ACCEPT me for who I am, and not try or hope or pray that I “change”, then you are not the kind of person I want in my circle.
I would NEVER dream of treating someone with the kind of passive aggressive disregard for another human’s feelings as I’ve experienced. I am tired of seeing the religious posts from certain people claiming that they have devoted their lives to following Jesus’ teaching, yet have apparently not learned lesson #1: Love thy neighbor as thyself. You hide behind the cloak of “religion” and hide your bigotry behind the guise of Christianity, you belittle others for their “sin”, yet cannot see the plank in your own eye.
If you choose to claim you are a Christian, then practice what you preach. Stand in the mirror and honestly ask yourself how your sin is any less than my perceived “sin”? Now turn and look at your son, daughter, brother, sister, niece, nephew, etc. and ask yourself – what if they were gay? Would I love them any less? Could you turn your back on them or use your guise of Christianity to push them away? What if it was your child? Would you stand for someone bullying your child? What if it was you? How would you feel if you were in my position?
Do you not see how your “religion” is hurting others? Do you not see the kids & teenagers and even ADULTS who take their own lives because their own flesh and blood cannot accept them and truly LOVE them for who they are?
How about a turn about in roles. I do not want you in my home, I don’t want your toxic oppression to turn the love that lives here to hatred. I do not want you around our child, your religion might “rub” off on them and turn them Christian. Your bigotry and narrow-mindedness might cloud their ability to love unconditionally regardless of color, disability, gender, nationality, religion. I don’t want you to “recruit” our child to a community where he must follow the leader at the cost of his own individuality.
I am an adult and I have the ability to choose what I expose myself to and I simply choose love. Love means love, regardless of who it’s with or for. Love is what I want our son to know. Love, pure and simple. If that’s not what is truly in your heart, than you have no place in our lives.
Please think about what you say, what you do, what you post. Think about how it would make someone feel. If it is not your intention to hurt, then don’t post it.